How Growing Up with Acne Made Me More Successful
Step-by-step details for everything that helped me gain success while I was fighting acne
When I was a teenager, a lot of my friends went to parties. Some of my classmates got their first love feeling. Being a teenager, I wanted to communicate a lot. But the reality was different. Only a few people were my real friends, while others didn’t want to talk with me. The reason behind it was my acne.
Starting from my twelve years, I got a lot of acne on my face and body. Because of this, I stop to make new friendships for a long time. Instead, I spent my time learning other things. While my friends were hanging out every day, I studied more than they did.
I learn a lot of different areas besides my school subjects. I also had a lot of hobbies to relax mentally. Year by year, my self-education helped me to achieve the job success that I have now. Acne from my teenage life gave me life lessons I continue to use today.
Listening and Understanding People
My acne was a reason I stopped arguing with people. I felt more comfortable when I listen only. The less communicative I became, the better I understood people through listening. Michael W. Purdy in Qualitative Research explained why it happens so. He provides an alternative solution to listening to scholars, teachers, and practitioners.
This chapter uses an autobiographical history of qualitative research to discuss listening behavior as experiential and grounded.The first concern is the lack of qualitative listening research. Purdy reviews the research that has been carried out and evaluates its relevance for understanding listening. He offers concrete steps for doing qualitative research and he suggests directions for future work based on a philosophical approach.
Because of low-level talking from my side, I became a concentrated person. This concentration means higher productivity in any task I did. As a result, I got more things done in a shorter time. My attention focused on the problem. My brain analyzed the situation and provided the best solution.
While I didn’t communicate with people a lot, I analyzed them instead.
Harward Business Review has an amazing article Listening to People. It explains the value to hear other people. Ralph G. Nichols and Leonard A. Stevens mentioned research at Florida State University and Michigan State University.
Research showed that two months after listening to a talk, the average listener will remember only about 25% of what was said. Once a listener barely learned something, he or she tends to forget from one-half to one-third of it within eight hours.
When some people prefer to provide immediate reaction, I was quiet. I was waiting for their response. It helped me to predict people’s behavior and then answer. If you want other people to hear you, listen to them first. This will train your concentration and memory abilities.
Listening to people helped me to understand them better. Instead of arguing, I provided solutions to their problems. In my career, it helped me to land any job I want because of this habit. Communication is a golden key for landing a job, creating a business. We need to talk to people everywhere — understanding people’s mind opens doors to any goal.
If you want to start your own business, listening is vital. Any product or service needs to decide on a particular problem. To know this problem, you need to ask people first and listen to what they say. The ability to listen and understand helps to create a successful business. Founders who listen to their users create people-centered companies.
Self-Control Opens Any Doors
Most teenagers grow in a high emotional mood. They are easy to get distracted, influenced by other people. Teenagers communicate a lot. The primary tool of their communication is mobile devices today. And sometimes teenagers lose control and get mental illness.
For all teenagers any type of communication is important. Teenagers In Communication research by Crispin Thurlow explains the teenager's connection to everyday communication and compares it with the adult one.
With adolescents commonly depicted by adults as communication ignorant and inept, the need to find out what young people actually understand by, and know about, communication is discussed in this article. In this vein, two pieces of research that have investigated “communication awareness” in adolescence are reviewed, and ideas for further research in the area are offered.
When I was a teenager, there were no solid social media yet. We didn’t have problems with mental illness, but we were aggressive without social media.
In The Mood research conducted by Mark Matthews and Gavin Doherty explain how psychologists use mobile devices to help teenagers with mental illness. In this research, teenagers use the system to record symptoms on their mobile phones and can view this information in a clinical setting with a therapist. This allowed them to understand the reasons and control themselves. But my generation didn’t have such an opportunity. So we needed to handle problems without device help. We communicated in actual time and analyzed ourselves.
As I mentioned before, I didn’t communicate too much with my friends. But there were a few of them with whom I talked from time to time. I found an interesting difference between them and me.
Spending more time at home, I had more control over my emotions. If I disagreed with a particular point of view, I always explained it with evidence. But most of my friends explained their point of view with emotions only. They didn’t provide any facts to support their thoughts. While acne was a problem for my appearance, I got top results in school.
The reason for this was my direct answers with robust evidence and emotional control. I always controlled my emotions and talked with facts only.
Self-control is a powerful tool for you. If you can hide your emotions and answer with pure facts, you look reliable and professional. If you look at most entrepreneurs, you always find that they talk with powerful evidence. If you want to land the job of your dream, you need to have self-control. No one wants to hire you because of your emotions. Recruiters are looking for trustworthy professionals. During the interview, you need to answer any question with evidence only.
If you look at the startup industry, investors give money to a few founders. They pick the ones who have a solid income calculation and proof of concept. In any life situation, you need to have self-control. Emotions are great for happiness, family connections. But if you want to gain professional success, feelings are helpless here. Self-control is a key to your success.
High Concentration on What You Do
Being a teenager is hard, especially if you have acne. I remember my teenage time. If you’re different, you stay alone. No one wants to friend with you because of your look. I was in this situation too. While spending most of my time at home, I learned many new skills, as you already know.
I wanted to be better and better; I was concentrated on it. Aidan Moran shows the connection between concentration and performance in his research.
Concentration is an attentional process that involves the ability to focus on the task at hand while ignoring distractions. Cognitive research shows that it is vital for success in any field of skilled performance. The chapter begins by identifying three different dimensions of attention — concentration (or effortful awareness), selective perception, and divided attention (or the ability to perform two or more concurrent skills equally well).
I gained so much knowledge because I wanted to be better. I was serious and concentrated to achieve this goal.
I had acne. This is a downside. But I realized I could be better in other areas where my classmates or friends are weak. I can prove that I am stronger than they are. The idea to be better and better was my major trigger. I wanted to beat my acne with other skills and knowledge. That’s why I learned so many things during my school time. I learned to draw, paint, everything about PC repair. I tried dancing and a lot of physical activity. I learned and wrote poetry and took music classes. Each year I took part in school contests. I got at least one or two certificates with top places in all competitions.
I was one of the best in my class. I’ve read half of the books in my home library. I tried to write and did a lot of crafts. High concentration helped me to do all these activities. If you’re a teenager, you’re easy to distract. But staying most of my time alone, my concentration was high. I trained myself to use it in any live situation. I applied it in school, and in my job once I became an adult. I still develop my concentration ability to do more things.
In any industry, you should perform with top results. Salary can measure your success. To get a higher salary, you need to do a lot of things at the same time. Yes, your industry matters. But any type of job can bring you a high salary if you spend time productively.
High concentration allows you to do things according to your priority. Quality is essential for your list of tasks. If you can get things done at a high-quality level, you’re successful. Many people prefer to use quantity over quality. But I recommend not to go with this rule. Instead, improve your concentration and perform all your tasks with fantastic quality results. Once you improve your concentration, you’ll see how productive you can be. This principle applies to your professional field and personal life as well.
Being a teenager with acne gave me a lot of problems in my life. But not everything was so wrong as I thought before. I got important life lessons and knowledge that helped me to achieve the results I have now.
While most people think acne is a big problem, I’m grateful I had it. It gave me so many things and made me think more about real human values than my friends.
Once I became an adult, the skills and knowledge I received helped me do many things. I land the job of my dream, build a personal brand, lived in another country, and found my lovely husband.
If you have acne, you can achieve better results than other people. Because of your unique situation, you can enjoy the life experience I went through.